18 Tricks to Make New Habits Stick (Look back at this for reference)


18 Tricks to Make New Habits Stick


Wouldn’t it be nice to have everything run on autopilot? Chores, exercise, eating healthy and getting your work done just happening automatically. Unless they manage to invent robot servants, all your work isn’t going to disappear overnight. But if you program behaviors as new habits you can take out the struggle.

With a small amount of initial discipline, you can create a new habit that requires little effort to maintain. Here are some tips for creating new habits and making them stick:

1. Commit to Thirty Days – Three to four weeks is all the time you need to make a habit automatic. If you can make it through the initial conditioning phase, it becomes much easier to sustain. A month is a good block of time to commit to a change since it easily fits in your calendar.

2. Make it Daily – Consistency is critical if you want to make a habit stick. If you want to start exercising, go to the gym every day for your first thirty days. Going a couple times a week will make it harder to form the habit. Activities you do once every few days are trickier to lock in as habits.

3. Start Simple – Don’t try to completely change your life in one day. It is easy to get over-motivated and take on too much. If you wanted to study two hours a day, first make the habit to go for thirty minutes and build on that.

4. Remind Yourself – Around two weeks into your commitment it can be easy to forget. Place reminders to execute your habit each day or you might miss a few days. If you miss time it defeats the purpose of setting a habit to begin with.

5. Stay Consistent – The more consistent your habit the easier it will be to stick. If you want to start exercising, try going at the same time, to the same place for your thirty days. When cues like time of day, place and circumstances are the same in each case it is easier to stick.

6. Get a Buddy – Find someone who will go along with you and keep you motivated if you feel like quitting.

7. Form a Trigger – A trigger is a ritual you use right before executing your habit. If you wanted to wake up earlier, this could mean waking up in exactly the same way each morning. If you wanted to quit smoking you could practice snapping your fingers each time you felt the urge to pick up a cigarette.

8. Replace Lost Needs – If you are giving up something in your habit, make sure you are adequately replacing any needs you’ve lost. If watching television gave you a way to relax, you could take up meditation or reading as a way to replace that same need.

9. Be Imperfect – Don’t expect all your attempts to change habits to be successful immediately. It took me four independent tries before I started exercising regularly. Now I love it. Try your best, but expect a few bumps along the way.

10. Use “But” – A prominent habit changing therapist once told me this great technique for changing bad thought patterns. When you start to think negative thoughts, use the word “but” to interrupt it. “I’m no good at this, but, if I work at it I might get better later.”

11. Remove Temptation – Restructure your environment so it won’t tempt you in the first thirty days. Remove junk food from your house, cancel your cable subscription, throw out the cigarettes so you won’t need to struggle with willpower later.

12. Associate With Role Models – Spend more time with people who model the habits you want to mirror. A recent study found that having an obese friend indicated you were more likely to become fat. You become what you spend time around.

13. Run it as an Experiment – Withhold judgment until after a month has past and use it as an experiment in behavior. Experiments can’t fail, they just have different results so it will give you a different perspective on changing your habit.

14. Swish – A technique from NLP. Visualize yourself performing the bad habit. Next visualize yourself pushing aside the bad habit and performing an alternative. Finally, end that sequence with an image of yourself in a highly positive state. See yourself picking up the cigarette, see yourself putting it down and snapping your fingers, finally visualize yourself running and breathing free. Do it a few times until you automatically go through the pattern before executing the old habit.

15. Write it Down – A piece of paper with a resolution on it isn’t that important. Writing that resolution is. Writing makes your ideas more clear and focuses you on your end result.

16. Know the Benefits – Familiarize yourself with the benefits of making a change. Get books that show the benefits of regular exercise. Notice any changes in energy levels after you take on a new diet. Imagine getting better grades after improving your study habits.

17. Know the Pain – You should also be aware of the consequences. Exposing yourself to realistic information about the downsides of not making a change will give you added motivation.

18. Do it For Yourself – Don’t worry about all the things you “should” have as habits. Instead tool your habits towards your goals and the things that motivate you. Weak guilt and empty resolutions aren’t enough.

Waterpark Rehearsals?


Interesting week its been. Sunday I worked, went and jammed with Shane Weaver whom I’m putting an acoustic thing together with, Then I went to Open Mic Night with my brother, where we bailed early due to noise levels, only to be swept into worst territory with the worst karaoke music you’ve ever heard. The slowest, saddest, country songs that made me want to put a gun in my mouth and pull the trigger, luckily Jake made it fun with a game of drinking when the golf guy touches his hat (who showed up randomly with the gf *opp, third wheel am I again.*) and hadn’t even bothered to call and ask if I wanted to go. But supposedly he “assumed” I was gonna be there. Sure… Bailed with my brother and his married friends and hung in Lindy’s garage chatting till about 4 in the morning. Seth was asking me a lot of questions about Knight, how I felt about him, and If I thought I was going to stay here instead of take off to Austin like I had originally planned.

Then Monday I had Kayla guilt trip me and drug me hung over to the water park (Fun city) Which I’ve never been to one before, If I have I was too young to remember. I was also to scared to ride the waterside, so I basically stuck to the lazy river. She ditched early to go pick up her cat from the vet and I stayed behind with Lindy and Kevin. Kevin gave me a lift home and I mentioned about wanting to move to Davenport. He says he likes living there and he’s glad he moved out of Burlington.

Tuesday I stayed home with the family. Nothing really exciting, but was productive. Did laundry, showered, attempted to put together the cabaret set list on with the pianist Richard Webb who’s going to play for me at the Bart Howard room if all goes well. I’m still having difficulty choosing songs though.  I’m meeting him Wednesday at the St Paul United Church on Ramsey & Mt Pleasant st in West Burlington at 7pm to go over songs and see what we can come up with.

As for today, I had to wake up an hour early to get a ride to work from Wendy. And was work ever a cluster fuck. I almost had an anxiety attack. So on my lunch break I called Dr Bair, and I set up an appointment with him tomorrow at 2pm.  I think there are some things I need to get off my chest about the past two years or so. And now that i’m working I can afford to go to him again. I truly feel I need the guidance.